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As I mentioned in previous posts, I am looking to get out and date more soon. I have absolutely no problem picking up men, but I thought I would reach out and try this…
If (and ONLY if) you are in the Colorado Springs area and would like to meet with me you must follow these set rules:
1. You must be at least 21 years old and be able to produce photo identification to prove this age.
2. Send me a private message (via my facebook link, under my tweets and profile picture on this site) with the following information:
a. First name
b. Age
c. Height/ Weight
d. Cock size
i. HONEST length and girth
ii. Cock photo
e. A face photo
3. You must be flexible and project a date and place to meet.
a. I have my own personal life; I prefer dates on evenings and weekends.
b. This will be an actual date. Although I will meet you at your proposed (public) place, you will be a chivalrous date and pay the bill.
c. You must not whine or complain if I have to change our date (I do have my own personal/private life outside of cuckoldry).
4. You must be willing to provide a cell phone number and send/receive text and have an occasional phone conversation by my discretion.
5. You must be wiling to communicate for a stint of time to establish comfort levels before the actual meeting.
If the date goes well and we mutually decide to set a date and time to fuck… You have more rules:
1. You must be able to furnish proof of health (i.e. STD tests) if requested.
2. You must be able/willing to provide a place for us to fuck (the backseat of you vehicle does NOT count).
a. If we decide to continue fucking regularly:
i. You must be willing to fuck me in front of my husband
ii. You must be willing to be photographed (identifying features blurred or distorted).
3. You must wear a condom… NO EXCEPTIONS!
I am NOT interested in:
1. Cuckolding other men (besides my husband)
2. Anal sex
3. BDSM (any sort of sexual violence)
4. Liars: If you lie to me about ANYTHING whatsoever, you are out and will not be given a second chance.
If you are willing to abide by these rules, then please send me a message and maybe we can get together sometime.
Hi Rayna -- I hope you don't mind me posting this to ask you a question. So this is not a reply to your call for messages from those interested in dating; it's more a question from someone who feels attracted to this lifestyle, but is afraid of some aspects of it (perhaps because I've never experienced it myself). Since you sound like a good person and you obviously enjoy being a cuckoldress, then maybe you can help me with some information. (I am a man, by the way, whose cuckold interests come from early childhood, as far back as I can recall actually.)
ReplyDeleteI think the question in my mind concerns the relation between sex and love in cuckolding. I suppose part of any alternative lifestyle is changing the usual relation between sex and love -- sex traditionally has to happen in a certain way to be seen as a symbol of the love between husband and wife. When you go alternate, you change this way; the equation still exists, but you change the expression.
Now, this is easy to understand in certain cases -- e.g., gays, polyamorous relations, etc. But when you enter D/s realm -- and cuckolding, which apparently always includes a certain desire for humiliation (at least in my case it does) -- the equation becomes a little bit more complicated. It becomes paradoxical: humiliation (say, a creampie) becomes an act of love, of respect for the other's sexuality; sleeping around becomes something that the couple 'is doing together' even when the wife goes alone (wifey and hubby apparently are in some sense 'partners in crime'); and so on.
This paradoxical aspect is precisely what is so erotic (at least to me) in the lifestyle. It is just so wonderful to imagine one's wife as a cuckoldress; there is a jolt of energy in it that is simply magic. And yet I am also afraid of it (I have never done it, so maybe it's lack of experience).
I think because it would seem, at least at first sight, that the fantasy has the implicit danger of being able to overwhelm and perhaps destroy you. Can a cuckold husband, in his effort to be the 'sexual wimp' that his fantasy makes him want to be, actually become one -- become less than he is, less than a real person? Could it be that, in his love for the fantasy, he forgets that he also is a human who grows and changes and develops, and just becomes a 'cuck' and nothing else?
I don't know... if something has to 'look bad' to feel good, in the way that cuckolding does, isn't there a risk that it will actually become bad?
Did you ever feel anything like this -- fear and doubts? And if you did, how did you solve them? Do you feel sure that there is no harm in the lifestyle -- for you, for your husband, even for your bulls?
Well that was about it. I hope I haven't ranted too much here, that I've managed to make some sense, and that I'm not being inconvenient. You simply seemed to be a good person, and I thought you might feel like giving me an answer.
Thanks in advance.
Sérgio
Whew! That is one hell of a question. I would be delighted to answer. Please be patient with me. I have a lot going on right now. I will specifically respond to you in a blog addressed to you.
ReplyDeleteThanks for considering the question. Please take your time, we all have lots of different commitments in your daily life, and it looks as if I asked a question that can't be answered in just a couple of sentences!...
ReplyDeleteBasically, I'm a bit afraid of my desires. So I'm doing the obvious thing: asking someone with more experience with this kind of desires what she thinks of my fears, if they ring any bells, etc.
And of course I'll be very thankful for any insight you can give me on this topic. Sex is... strong and mysterious. All help is appreciated!
Again, thanks in advance, and please don't hurry.
Sérgio
I liked reading your blog – your husband must absolutely worship you. I heard of cuckolding a year or two ago and have been unable to get the idea out of my head ever since. For me, it would be the ultimate submission to a woman…to encourage her to sleep with whom she pleases. It must be so rewarding too, having half the worries that your wife is being dishonest/losing interest in you. I would only worry about emotions though. B Bull, for instance, sounds like the ideal guy for you on a physical level so what would you do if he ticked all your other boxes too? Essentially he’d be more appealing as a partner than your husband in most respects. I’m just trying to understand where plain lust ends and dangerous emotion/passion begins in cuckoldry.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, I wish you all the best. Sorry to see that someone upset you with their comment before – it’s inevitable to hear from arseholes from time to time. Look forward to your future posts. Ben
I just found your blog and find it both interesting and informative. From your writing I get the feeling that you seem to be a well educated and well rounded person. You also seem to have some experience in this field so I would like your opinion on my situation. Would you consider me a "Cuck", or something else? From my reading trying to understand my own feelings and trying to find others who feel the same way. I seem to be neither fish nor fowl.
ReplyDeleteI do not consider myself a cuck, how ever I do feel the desire (need) to allow my wife the freedom of having other lovers if she so desires. If this is to happen I do require to be part of it. Either a 3 some situation (done that) or be told in detail what happened afterward (she did not want to discuss it when it was over). I also must meet and agree to any new partner. I have discussed this with her, we have made 2 attempts so far. Both were less than satisfactory from both of our points of view.
I have no problem with her looking for someone (male or female) to give her pleasure that I can not for what ever reason seem to give her. Weather this pleasure is sex (variety) or taking her out dancing (which I do not enjoy and refuse to do unless very, very drunk). Yet I find no desire in myself to look for an outside lover.
A part of the "cuck" world that does not fit well with me is the humiliation part that most speak blogs of. The first time my wife or any person shows me disrespect, there will be hell to pay, and the relationship with one of us will end. I also will not allow my wife shown disrespect. I understand using "dirty" talk during sex that is one thing, but treating her as anything but the lady she is (out of bed) will ensure my anger.
That in a nut shell is my situation. What do you think?
Again, I *promise* to respond to every one of you as soon as I can. I will specifically set aside some time this coming weekend to blog for you. Thank you for your patience with me on this!
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